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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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It is tiring having to "be there" for someone on a constant basis. We are Seniors caring for Seniors. We were looking forward to retirement and then we find ourselves caring for someone. My Mom could not be left alone. Had to wait till my DH was home so I could run to the store. And even though he didn't live with me, I had a nephew with disabilities I now had to oversee. Just before that I watched my grandson from 2 months to 20. He had to go to Daycare because I had to take Mom in. Believe me if I had been given a choice, I would have continued to care for the 20 month old. At least I got time to myself from 5 pm on and weekends. Even after Mom was placed in an AL, there is responsibility. My Mom was easy considered to some of the posts I read here. Even so, I found I was not a caregiver. No patience for one. I dealt with Dementia. I like order and predictability and you have none of that with Dementia.
You do the best you can. Its hard taking care of another person. Try not to be hard on yourself. If you need to or can, set boundries. I don't like being at someone's beck and call. Mom was like having a toddler, didn't need anything until I finally sat down. When I took her in, it was never to be permanent. Eventually I placed her in a nice AL just up the street. When money ran out it was then LTC. By that time she didn't know where she was so I didn't have to deal with the "I want to go home" thing.
IDK, If you're like many of us, you never saw this coming. It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed and completely burn out! It's kinda like eating an elephant!! One bite at time!! Is Mom living with you or in assisted living? It's hard not to let your Loved ones needs consume your life, but you need to set boundaries. Not only for Mom, but for yourself. Do what you can. And don't beat yourself up over what you can't! Seek counseling. A good counselor can help you deal with the guilt. You're doing all you can. You have nothing to feel guilty about!! God bless!
Your feelings are entirely normal and they are also entirely ok. In a way, you are experiencing a certain level of grief over the loss of the mother you knew. If you never had a kind and loving relationship with your mother, this exacerbates the situation. And if your relationship was lloving, you’ve realized you can no longer go back to “the way things were”. You’ve realized you’ve become the parent.
Caregiving for a loved one is not easy. We hit many lows and few highs. It’s a thankless job. I take care of my husband and work part time. I’m seriously considering quitting, but my job is my escape. The idea of sitting and watching Hallmark Movies over and over 7 days a week, 14 hours a day makes my blood run cold. If I do quit, it would take some serious self-discipline to do things for myself and my house. And, this is what you must do. Hire an in home health aide to come sit with your mother. Even if you just go to another room and read or craft, it’s time for you. And, you don’t need to say “how high” each time she says “jump”. I had to learn the hard way to encourage my husband to be as self-sufficient as he can be. Caregiving is a process. This is still new to you. Give yourself some time to adjust. Sending good thoughts and hugs...
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You do the best you can. Its hard taking care of another person. Try not to be hard on yourself. If you need to or can, set boundries. I don't like being at someone's beck and call. Mom was like having a toddler, didn't need anything until I finally sat down. When I took her in, it was never to be permanent. Eventually I placed her in a nice AL just up the street. When money ran out it was then LTC. By that time she didn't know where she was so I didn't have to deal with the "I want to go home" thing.
If you're like many of us, you never saw this coming. It's totally normal to feel overwhelmed and completely burn out!
It's kinda like eating an elephant!!
One bite at time!!
Is Mom living with you or in assisted living?
It's hard not to let your Loved ones needs consume your life, but you need to set boundaries. Not only for Mom, but for yourself.
Do what you can. And don't beat yourself up over what you can't!
Seek counseling. A good counselor can help you deal with the guilt. You're doing all you can. You have nothing to feel guilty about!!
God bless!
Caregiving for a loved one is not easy. We hit many lows and few highs. It’s a thankless job. I take care of my husband and work part time. I’m seriously considering quitting, but my job is my escape. The idea of sitting and watching Hallmark Movies over and over 7 days a week, 14 hours a day makes my blood run cold. If I do quit, it would take some serious self-discipline to do things for myself and my house. And, this is what you must do. Hire an in home health aide to come sit with your mother. Even if you just go to another room and read or craft, it’s time for you. And, you don’t need to say “how high” each time she says “jump”. I had to learn the hard way to encourage my husband to be as self-sufficient as he can be. Caregiving is a process. This is still new to you. Give yourself some time to adjust. Sending good thoughts and hugs...