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If you have one in your loved ones room, do you find yourself always checking on things? My mom's place allows them and you just sign documents, etc. She's in a private room. I'm just wondering about getting obsessive about "making sure she's OK" and it being unhealthy. Thx for feedback. I'm the only person who helps and advocates for my mom and interacts with her care team regularly, etc.

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You may be setting yourself up to expect perfection in your LOs care by watching a camera constantly, like you're waiting for the tiniest thing to be "off" so you can pounce. My mom lived in a Memory Care Assisted Living private suite for 3 years and I never even considered installing a camera. I visited often and had a good rapport with the staff, which was my job as her advocate. She lived in regular AL for 4 yrs prior, in an apartment, sans camera as well.

There will be people here who swear by cameras in residents rooms bc "nobody should be trusted these days." Whatever makes you feel most comfortable is the right answer.

Decide ahead of time exactly how much time you'll devote to watching this camera. Otherwise, you're driving yourself crazy for nothing, imo.
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Me, I would pass on a camera unless it was absolutely necessary, like someone is stealing from your mother or she is being abused.

I have 2 in homes, one AL the other MC, this has been for several years, I see no reason to spy on either one of them.

IMO being a helicopter child is not in the best interest of either the caretaker or LO.
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I don't know about obsessive, but today I see folks are mostly on their phone all the time, checking cameras of one thing and another including their pets.
Only you can make the judgement about whether you are giving yourself more angst or less. I can't see any reason not to do it if you feel that you would be comforted by awakening in the middle of the night, worried for no reason, and can just tune in for a second to make certain your elder is safe and sound. And then leave the site. I think you really are the best one to judge if this increases or decreases you anxiety.
My best out to you.
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Do you have the camera in the room?
I think like anything you get used to it and eventually "ignore" what is there.
If you are thinking about putting a camera in the room you know the first week or so you will be watching it a lot. But once you realize there really is nothing to see 99.99% of the time you will find better use of your time.
I have to ask you say "nursing home"
Is mom in Skilled Nursing or is it Memory Care, Assisted Living or Independent Living?
With Memory Care, Assisted Living and Independent Living I would hope that most of the time she is NOT in her room. And if she is in a Skilled Nursing facility unless she is bed bound I would hope she is not in her room all day either. So there may not be anything to see most of the time. The real active part of the days would be AM when the staff is getting people up, in the afternoon when many will take a nap or be brought to the room for a change and in the evening when getting ready for bed.
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