Mum seems to be getting more and more aggressive i just dont want to be around her now i think she is getting worse shes slamming doors and very agitated i cant say anything but she bites my head off?
We are seeing the geriatrician next friday but her moods are starting to scare me i just cant reason with her.
If you haven't "been there" please do not think less of us who found help with meds.
I called the neurologist and he put her on a medicine called depakote sprinkles. Its supposed to be for seizures, to calm the brain but also works for dementia agression. It worked like a charm. not only was she happier ON medicine, but so was I. At first she slept a lot, then she got adjusted to it and was fine. I kept trying to wean her off it after a year and the agression snuck back in. Now, 2 years later, she is off of it and fine, happy and alert, Good luck, just dont take it personally, you cannot rationalize with them in that state of mind and she does not mean it, she cannot help it. Lock the doors and like bookluver said, hide the knives, scissors, etc and watch her closely.
Do you have any idea of what it is is like to be terrorized by a beloved family member daily? DO YOU? Do you know what it is like to try to live a normal life while your sibling and husband tell you that "oh, what's the big deal; she's not that bad," when they are not the target of her combative anger and physical strength?
Walk 2 blocks in my shoes and maybe you will feel differently about telling others to "Please get real". I WAS real. It was terrifying and I wished with all my heart that I was dead when it was occurring, as no one helped me.
No, you cannot reason with her. Are you able to find out what exactly is irritating her to be so aggressive? With my mom, she hated being inside the house. She wanted OUT. (sundowning) She was more aggressive in the late afternoons - when she would literally attack us. At nights, she's at the door, banging it, wanting to get out.
In the meantime, because your mom is becoming aggressive, please make it a point to watch her carefully. Look into her eyes, her facial expressions, is her hands closed fisted? These were signs of my mom when she was about to attack us. Sometimes, her face is very neutral, but her hands were clenched as she slowly walked toward us. We Ran. Then she ran after us. Inside the home, we learned to listen for her before entering the room. We had to make sure that we had an exit away from her. Because when she attacks, we didn't want to be cornered and have no way out. Lock your bedroom door at nights. Between now and her doctor's visit, you just need to be pro-active. And hide anything that might hurt her. We had to hide all the knives (for our safety.)
Sorry that your mom is becoming aggressive and that you have to deal with it until her appointment. Any way of pushing it up? Call to see if there was any last minute cancellation? {{Hugs}}
You've got to figure that if a hypnotist can get people to bark like dogs or cluck like chickens on stage for entertainment, they can change a person's behavior. It might be worth a shot.
Wait for the geriatricitian's diagnosis.
Making diagnoses from a short post that contains very little detail is foolhardy, and relying on such diagnoses to recommend a course of action is even worse.
UTIs can only be confirmed by urunalyais and culture and sensitivity testing.
People often slam doors when they are angry but it rarely signifies an infection. Your Mum obviously disagrees with your 'reasoning,' whatever you mean by that.
Guessing at cyber-distance is a dangerous game to play with the health of another. Clinical examination and a variety of tests are needed to arrive at a safe diagnosis and to decide on a course of treatment, should that be necessary.
Be kind and humour her until health service [professionals have had the chance to determine whether there is anything 'wrong' with your mother, or whether she is fed up with other people telling her what to do and how to do ,it.
Please be very, very cautious about medical or psychiatric advice given in this forum. Most contributors are not professionals and what might fit one case, such as the case or cases they know, probably will not fit every case.
People mean well, but medicine is such a big field that requires professionals to do it properly without endangering the cared for.
I wish you well.
Normally I just ignore posters who put others down but enough is enough lately. So many come here in pain and frustration, just looking for some help, validation or some comfort. Either speak of your experiences and offer help on the subject at hand or be quiet.
I'm a very quiet easy going sort but when anyone tries to harm in any way a living creature who is down, be it human or animal, you'd better know how to run!!
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