I've been accused of stealing money from my 82 year old father. My wife and i are powers of attorney for him. We pay his bills using our own money and then use his to pay us back. So his bank statements always show purchases in our area, and not his. We have a caregiver company that comes in every other day to help him. Now because we missed one payment to this company ,they have placed a guardian over him and temp blocked our power of attorney rights.We are not thieves and did not, or intend to steal from him
I paid bills from my father's account, but I had to write a check to myself for groceries, clothing and gas. I would pick things up for him along with my own purchases and many times I didn't pay myself back. I always kept the receipts with the items highlighted. I kept all of the bills and receipts in a bankers box, just in case there were any questions. My sister in law accused me of taking money for myself. There are always going to be people who will judge you, so it's best to keep the money and records for your parent separate from your own.
I hope things get straightened out soon!
I'm beginning to wonder if there's anyone on the site that HASN'T been accused of theft at some point...
I had promised my dying father I would take care of my mother. I moved her next to me 3 years ago and am P.O.A. I never touch her accounts, but do all of her shopping. I log everything, date everything and log every check she writes for me. I don't ever want to go through being falsely accused again. It's one of the most horrible feelings in the world. We help out of love and set our own lives aside for a time and have to live with being blamed for something we would never do! Good luck to you. Remember you are doing a good thing and you will have a special place in heaven waiting for you, see you there :)
When I made my first accounting to the judge, I was accused of stealing from my mother because I did what you do - I wrote checks from my account and used mother's account to cover what I had written. It was totally legit and I had a full accounting with receipts. I learned to write checks from mother's account only and I made that check for each individual receipt. In the beginning, there were quite a few check as repairs were being made on her house, but it sure was simpler than explaining - line by line - to the attorneys and the judge.
I staple every receipt and invoice on a paper in a book and write the check number on the bottom of the page. this way my pages coincide with the bank statements.
I was never given instructions as to how to do my accounting and had to learn the hard way. Hang in there.
I understand why you pay your dad's bills the way you do, I'm sure it's much simpler that way. Can you show this agency your dad's bills, show then how much they are a month, and then show them your statements and how you pay his bills with your money and then reimburse yourself from your dad's account? It should be fairly easy to provide this information as figures don't lie.
Get a copy of your dad's monthly bank statement and a copy of your own and then just follow the money transactions.
What do you have to do to get this agency's hooks out of you? Do it and then find another agency. This is not standard practice for a nursing agency.