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Most of these have a chat line too. I am the adult child of a parent who committed suicide for health reasons. More than 4 decades ago. I was 18.
He was terminally ill. A fact he kept to himself. He had just seen my mom's dad, hospital hooked up to all kinds of tubes and gizmos. He wanted my mom to promise she did not do him. She could not make that promise. This was pre advanced directives.
My dad was a POW in Japan for 3.5 years, one of longest held. He was in Bataan death march.
Those of you who might be judgmental about this, I think God cares more about how you lived your life, than how you might have ended it.
Wow Segoline. Amazing what your dad went through in WW2. A true hero. The Bataan death march. Is this who you say committed suicide as he had a terminal illness?
The National Suicide Prevention Hotline is 1-800-273-8255. But, it's not a long term solution. You need respite. Is there funding for a home care companion, or respite in your area such as an adult day program? I know you are reaching out for services to help your mother, but you need to help yourself too. Come here to vent and share, I even find some good laughs. But also consider putting a formal plan in place to get yourself some relief before you totally burn out.
An amazing father. A true American hero and a God inspired individual who maintained spiritual focus. If he can observe a loved one on all the medical assistance devices and conclude that it's worse than what the Japs did to him, what does that tell you? My wife and I have registered DNR's with local first responders as we both have life ending diseases. Our kids don't agree with our decisions. Try and find peace through Christ is my best advice. The spirit within us is what we are, even though such supernatural knowledge & acceptance is at great odds with our conscious selves. Seek out leaders that recognize you, and share your concerns with them. Together, you will find peace & acceptance just as your father did. God only knows the inner parts of us, not some Ph,D. making money with their expensive educations.
If the person is a Veteran or caring for a Veteran call the local VA or any VA for that matter the prompts will direct you what to do. The Suicide Hot Line as well, number posted by Segoline. You can also call the Alzheimer's Association they will help a lot, they have counselors that will answer the phone. And Call your Primary Doctor. They will refer you to a Therapist and if this is a crisis situation they will get you a very quick appointment. This might be the thing to do in any case as you or your loved one will need a place and person that will help on a long term basis. This is not a sign of weakness, as a matter of fact I think knowing you need help and seeking that help is a sign of great strength,.
You state that all she wants is a caring listener. My mother does not have Alzheimer's but her world and circle of family and friends has diminished to the point where I am the only one she wants to talk to about EVERYTHING. Anything that happens, anything that doesn't happen, any reason she can think of, and she is not a person of few words. And overwhelmingly negative. Not to mention stories I have heard more times than I can count. I have often wished there were ways to connect such people as herself to each other, places to call for information, etc. Not emergency resources, just everyday access.
Everyone should also know about the The Institute on Aging's 24-hour toll-free Friendship Line, which is the only accredited crisis line in the country for people aged 60 years and older. 1-800-971-0016. https://www.ioaging.org/services/all-inclusive-health-care/friendship-line
You can also refer a lonely or depressed older adult to them.
Their info page doesn't specifically mention dementia, however that is such a common issue among frail older adults that I imagine their trained volunteers have experience with this as well. Hope this helps!
In some cases, persons with dementia qualify for hospice or palliative care. They often send a volunteer to act as a companion. It will give you a break, and the person you are caring for someone else to talk to.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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I am the adult child of a parent who committed suicide for health reasons. More than 4 decades ago. I was 18.
He was terminally ill. A fact he kept to himself. He had just seen my mom's dad, hospital hooked up to all kinds of tubes and gizmos. He wanted my mom to promise she did not do him. She could not make that promise.
This was pre advanced directives.
My dad was a POW in Japan for 3.5 years, one of longest held. He was in Bataan death march.
Those of you who might be judgmental about this, I think God cares more about how you lived your life, than how you might have ended it.
But, it's not a long term solution. You need respite. Is there funding for a home care companion, or respite in your area such as an adult day program? I know you are reaching out for services to help your mother, but you need to help yourself too. Come here to vent and share, I even find some good laughs. But also consider putting a formal plan in place to get yourself some relief before you totally burn out.
If he can observe a loved one on all the medical assistance devices and conclude that it's worse than what the Japs did to him, what does that tell you?
My wife and I have registered DNR's with local first responders as we both have life ending diseases. Our kids don't agree with our decisions. Try and find peace through Christ is my best advice. The spirit within us is what we are, even though such supernatural knowledge & acceptance is at great odds with our conscious selves. Seek out leaders that recognize you, and share your concerns with them. Together, you will find peace & acceptance just as your father did.
God only knows the inner parts of us, not some Ph,D. making money with their expensive educations.
The Suicide Hot Line as well, number posted by Segoline.
You can also call the Alzheimer's Association they will help a lot, they have counselors that will answer the phone.
And Call your Primary Doctor. They will refer you to a Therapist and if this is a crisis situation they will get you a very quick appointment. This might be the thing to do in any case as you or your loved one will need a place and person that will help on a long term basis. This is not a sign of weakness, as a matter of fact I think knowing you need help and seeking that help is a sign of great strength,.
That is natl suicide prevention hotline. We are going to see this more frequently.
https://www.ioaging.org/services/all-inclusive-health-care/friendship-line
You can also refer a lonely or depressed older adult to them.
Their info page doesn't specifically mention dementia, however that is such a common issue among frail older adults that I imagine their trained volunteers have experience with this as well. Hope this helps!
http://www.suicidehotlines.com/hawaii.html
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