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I hope you will read Boundaries, it’s excellent in helping to establish what you will and won’t allow in your life. Surround yourself with people and activities that bring you encouragement and joy. Let go all that doesn’t. I wish you peace as you move forward
This is ur July post. So I am assuming you just can't do it. Which is OK. Seems you have some childhood stuff to deal with. Actually, children abused (and it was abuse) by a parent or parents should not be their care givers. You do what you need to do for you.
I guess I am looking for any information, at present.
I am dealing with some grief over this. I did not want to separate from them but their arguing got so bad that I told my Dad I would call the police if he hurt her.
You don't really give us anything with which to even begin to guess what is happening in this case. I can only say that if the posts below are any indication (when I try to get your old post I just get something that says "oops, we can't post this page right now", so I haven't a clue) then I say RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. In any case where there has been abuse, and it is suggested below that it WAS abuse, I think the best place to be is 3,000 miles away from that person. We have in the US a system for those without children to help in their care, without resources. Is it a perfect system? Nope. But it is there. Leave them with the phone numbers they will need to access, tell them Goodbye, and go make yourself a happy, quality life of such goodness that no one will ever need to run away from YOU. Good luck.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
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Leaving an abusive situation is a good plan.
So sorry this is happening at all, to you, or anyone.
Do not waste a moment's time blaming yourself.
If you cannot plan for your parent's care to be cared for by professionals prior to you leaving, you can call APS (adult protective services).
Godspeed and traveling mercies, Donyah.
You go.
I cannot be responsible for their choices toward each other.
If I want to help either/both, I need to establish a separate household.
Donyah
This is ur July post. So I am assuming you just can't do it. Which is OK. Seems you have some childhood stuff to deal with. Actually, children abused (and it was abuse) by a parent or parents should not be their care givers. You do what you need to do for you.
The main issue is that I cannot control either parent's behavior toward the other.
Donyah
Oh, Donyah; I remember this discussion now. There is NO way that you should be involved in hands on caregiving.
I agree that she should NOT be caring for her mom.
Thinking about you. Hope that you are still continuing to move forward in your life. You deserve peace and joy in your life.
Praise the steps forward,
Thank the broken road.
(A haiku poem by Stephanie Zhong).
Are they receiving care only from you? If you like, you can contact Council on Aging and she if she qualifies for assistance.
Best wishes to you.
I am focusing on myself. Maybe at some point, I can continue to help either or both of them.
That is for the future to decide.
Donyah
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4PYt0SDnrBE
I guess I am looking for any information, at present.
I am dealing with some grief over this. I did not want to separate from them but their arguing got so bad that I told my Dad I would call the police if he hurt her.
There is some history.
Thanks,
D
I can only say that if the posts below are any indication (when I try to get your old post I just get something that says "oops, we can't post this page right now", so I haven't a clue) then I say RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. In any case where there has been abuse, and it is suggested below that it WAS abuse, I think the best place to be is 3,000 miles away from that person.
We have in the US a system for those without children to help in their care, without resources. Is it a perfect system? Nope. But it is there. Leave them with the phone numbers they will need to access, tell them Goodbye, and go make yourself a happy, quality life of such goodness that no one will ever need to run away from YOU. Good luck.
I entered 'Shame' in the search icon above, then clicked on the closest sounding story, about the third one listed, it was by Donyah.