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I am going to assume that Husband didn't have a good relationship with his family before his Dementia? If so, why are they reaching out now?
Do you feel you need to protect yourself and husband from these people? If you reconnected, would you get help and support or just criticism? Is there an ulterior motive on their part, like money. There have been stories on this forum where a sibling thinks they trump the persons child. They feel they are entitled to something which is not so.
I appreciate your insightful take on the situation JoAnn29. You posed a good question. I do not know their motives. I have no time or energy to find out. My plate is full. What will I get from this reunion, or my husband who is too far gone to understand? This is a risky business. I decided not to do it. Blessings to you and to this valuable group!
People who were toxic to your husband are reaching out to reestablish a relationship with him? With you both? The question is a little confusing.
If your husband is deep in dementia, I doubt his family can hurt him anymore. If they were toxic to you, I wouldn't invite any additional stress into my life if I were you. Keep them posted on his condition via email and don't encourage visits.
If your husband isn't "there" anymore, it's really too late for them to get any positive resolution to their relationship. That's sad -but it's not your place to fix it.
Thank you Marcia7321 for your response. Yes they were toxic to us both, many years ago. I decided not to reconnect. I also have a responsibility to protect myself too, which I am now realizing. God bless you and all the Caregivers of this forum!
My husband is bedridden. He has 2 sisters and one living brother. We’ve had no contact with them for years. I saw them at a get together my son had and none of them even bothered to ask me how he was. My son is in contact with his cousin and she told him her mother and aunt were out and about one day and wanted to stop by. I was horrified. I promptly told,him to tell his cousin to tell her mother and aunt that they were not welcome here. I want nothing to do with them.
Smart, quick response. I am learning too that we should not be afraid to "hold our ground" and set clear parameters. As Caregivers we must preserve our physical and emotional energy... Thanks for sharing your experience Ahmijoy. Happy New Year, as we take life literally, ONE DAY AT A TIME... Stay strong and positive. It is uplifting to be understood and cared for at this forum!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I am going to assume that Husband didn't have a good relationship with his family before his Dementia? If so, why are they reaching out now?
Do you feel you need to protect yourself and husband from these people? If you reconnected, would you get help and support or just criticism? Is there an ulterior motive on their part, like money. There have been stories on this forum where a sibling thinks they trump the persons child. They feel they are entitled to something which is not so.
So, we need some background to be able to help.
Blessings to you and to this valuable group!
If your husband is deep in dementia, I doubt his family can hurt him anymore. If they were toxic to you, I wouldn't invite any additional stress into my life if I were you. Keep them posted on his condition via email and don't encourage visits.
If your husband isn't "there" anymore, it's really too late for them to get any positive resolution to their relationship. That's sad -but it's not your place to fix it.
I apologize if I have misunderstood the question.
I decided not to reconnect. I also have a responsibility to protect myself too, which I am now realizing. God bless you and all the Caregivers of this forum!
Your husband is vulnerable now.
I truly believe toxic family can destroy you by dividing you.
Thanks for sharing your experience Ahmijoy. Happy New Year, as we take life literally, ONE DAY AT A TIME... Stay strong and positive. It is uplifting to be understood and cared for at this forum!