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Honestly? Poop. My mom had been bladder incontinent for awhile but I was thrown for a loop when the bowel incontinence started - there was nothing really physically wrong with my mother - minor CHF which was well controlled, hip and knee replacement but not recent - and she chugged along using a rolling walker just fine. So why was she pooping in her drawers? Then what really freaked me out was she became unable to change her poo'd Depends without getting poop all over herself - well beyond her legs and bottom and she was also getting it all over the bathroom. Huh? WTH? So I ended up here and while I never found an exact medical or psychological reason for it - I did discover it wasn't that unusual- with dementia. I also got answers about why she hadn't showered in three years. Yep, three years. But she did decent "bird baths" so I always let that one slide. Believe it or not - that was the least of my problems.
But I guess the biggest problem was I didn't really know what dementia was. I had always thought "dementia" was a catch-all for what I thought was typical issues with aging - like being forgetful or repeating stories.
Boy, did I have a lot to learn. And it has certainly been an education. You know that saying "If I only knew then what I know now?" Lol - my mother always did say I had to learn everything the hard way!
For me, I wasn't familiar with dementia or Alzheimer's as I never lived closed enough to the elder relatives to see it up close and personal. So this was a whole new journey for me.
My parents didn't develop what seemed like memory loss [more than the normal as we age] until their mid to late 90's. It was very brief as other serious issues caused their passing.
I just needed to read all I could get my hands on regarding memory. In fact I read too much, as now if I forget something I tend to panic big time. Information overload :P
I did learn from the forums the differences between Independent Living... Assisted Living/Memory Care.... nursing home/long-term-care. I also learned how to respond when my parents said something that I knew wasn't correct... to just agree and leave it at that. Thus, I had to teach my Dad to do the same for my Mom when she was in total confusion.
I look back and laugh - at myself. I imagine the expression on my face when a junior doctor at the ER first said the words "vascular dementia" relating to my mother. I was indignant. I felt insulted on her behalf. How dare he! My mother could not possibly be demented! She was much too bright and articulate! She had merely had some sort of stroke and was temporarily confused...
I was, in short, pig-ignorant. I went home with my (curly) tail between my legs and did quite a lot of reading.
The best book I've read since finding my dad had dementia was:
An Unintended Journey: A Caregiver's Guide to Dementia by Janet Yagoda Shagam.
It's a wonderful read that takes one through the entire journey of dementia; along with some really good tips regarding how to find good Elder Attorneys; Power of Attorneys for health care, etc. I checked the book out from our local library and ended up ordering a copy for both myself and my sister.
I'm suspicious my dad has some form of early dementia even though most say no. Reading and getting educated here is way better than my cup of coffee this am! Keep your experiences coming friends, I'm addicted to knowledge 😊, even though I catch myself a bit demented and "pig-ignorant" at times 😉
Mom was worse after each transient ischemic attack. Forgetting birthdays, overdue bills, overdraft fees. She had always been organized, on time or early. Some dreams became her reality. She became more I oriented only her wants,desires,needs mattered. It was slow but eventually it needed to be addressed especially when medication wasn't being taken correctly.
about 2 months ago my dad just stopped. just stopped wearing anything but pajama bottoms stopped cooking real food stopped talking about going to the store stopped remembering what day it was or what time it is stopped being able to find words for things stopped sleeping his normal sleep pattern and stayed awake at night stopped taking his medication stopped having his glass of wine in the evenings with dinner stopped using his cane and had to go to a walker
We have called in In home care ,, we will call in nursing staff next.. not sure what to do about the medical approach.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
But I guess the biggest problem was I didn't really know what dementia was. I had always thought "dementia" was a catch-all for what I thought was typical issues with aging - like being forgetful or repeating stories.
Boy, did I have a lot to learn. And it has certainly been an education. You know that saying "If I only knew then what I know now?" Lol - my mother always did say I had to learn everything the hard way!
My parents didn't develop what seemed like memory loss [more than the normal as we age] until their mid to late 90's. It was very brief as other serious issues caused their passing.
I just needed to read all I could get my hands on regarding memory. In fact I read too much, as now if I forget something I tend to panic big time. Information overload :P
I did learn from the forums the differences between Independent Living... Assisted Living/Memory Care.... nursing home/long-term-care. I also learned how to respond when my parents said something that I knew wasn't correct... to just agree and leave it at that. Thus, I had to teach my Dad to do the same for my Mom when she was in total confusion.
But something was "off." Despite her valiant attempts to hide it.
Bless her crazy heart. The thought of mom being more scared than I was (true in hindsight) is such an eye-opener.
Dementia is a colossal rip-off. Whether you know it early or know it late.
I was, in short, pig-ignorant. I went home with my (curly) tail between my legs and did quite a lot of reading.
An Unintended Journey: A Caregiver's Guide to Dementia by Janet Yagoda Shagam.
It's a wonderful read that takes one through the entire journey of dementia; along with some really good tips regarding how to find good Elder Attorneys; Power of Attorneys for health care, etc. I checked the book out from our local library and ended up ordering a copy for both myself and my sister.
I'm suspicious my dad has some form of early dementia even though most say no.
Reading and getting educated here is way better than my cup of coffee this am!
Keep your experiences coming friends, I'm addicted to knowledge 😊, even though I catch myself a bit demented and "pig-ignorant" at times 😉
just stopped wearing anything but pajama bottoms
stopped cooking real food
stopped talking about going to the store
stopped remembering what day it was or what time it is
stopped being able to find words for things
stopped sleeping his normal sleep pattern and stayed awake at night
stopped taking his medication
stopped having his glass of wine in the evenings with dinner
stopped using his cane and had to go to a walker
We have called in In home care ,, we will call in nursing staff next.. not sure what to do about the medical approach.