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Its part of the Dementia. I told a story the other day about a client that had Dementia and living in her own home with family checking up on her daily. The front door was always left open for our Nurse. This one day Charlotte had locked the door. The Nurse identified herself but Charlotte would not unlock the door. She kept saying "Charlotte is not here she when shopping". I was able to track down a niece to get the door unlocked. Shortly after that Charlotte was placed in a NH. She thought she was in a hotel and the staff was so nice. The Nurse called it an episode. Can happen overnight.
I believe my 94 y/o mother thinks she's living in a hotel too, but she's living in a Memory Care ALF for the past 2 years in June. She says she 'feels funny eating there' because it's 'not where she lives' but the 'staff is so nice'. Her perceptions change all the time. Lately, she's getting dressed to 'ride the bus to Brooklyn (from Colorado) to see her Papa (who died when she was 16)'. She calls me every evening to tell me she's 'not coming home' and 'will stay there tonight'. So I'm not sure what she's thinking, and it doesn't really matter as long as she's not agitated/scared.
As long as your mom isn't agitated, frightened or upset about anything, just let all the statements go. That's my advice. My 94 y/o mother with dementia changes her perception of things all the time and as long as she's not upset, neither am I. Lately she's certain that her family members are still alive, though, and that saddens me because they're all deceased; she is the last man standing out of 10 family members in all. She's convinced they're 'ignoring' her, which isn't the case, of course, so it's tricky trying to explain reality to her w/o upsetting her.
I hate dementia with every ounce of my being. It strips our loved ones of their memories, and it takes them away from us entirely as we watch them fade away.
In psychology, referring to self in the third person is called "Distancing". I found this: "Research shows that self-talk, when done in 3rd person, can be an effective method of emotional self-regulation which can reduce anxiety. Converting your anxious/negative thoughts into third-person sentences reduces its negativity. It provides the necessary psychological distance between the self and anxiety-inducing contexts. This also helps when you are thinking about negative events and ruminating anxiety-ridden thoughts. The psychological distance allows a person to reflect on themselves in a less emotional way, similar to how they would reflect on some other person. The self is often emotionally charged in moments of anxiety, so the distance helps in reducing the impact of those emotions. Psychological distance lowers the perceived intensity of emotions and makes them easier to manage."
In the movie The Never Ending Story, Morlah the ancient Tortoise on Shell Mountain states: "W e d o n 't c a r e". "We don't even care that we don't care".
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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They say people return to childhood as they age. My 3 yo grandson refers to himself by his first name or in the 3rd person.
Doubtful it's a worry at all. Actually, kind of funny. Like she's narrating what's going on around her.
I hate dementia with every ounce of my being. It strips our loved ones of their memories, and it takes them away from us entirely as we watch them fade away.
Wishing you the best of luck moving forward.
I found this:
"Research shows that self-talk, when done in 3rd person, can be an effective method of emotional self-regulation which can reduce anxiety. Converting your anxious/negative thoughts into third-person sentences reduces its negativity. It provides the necessary psychological distance between the self and anxiety-inducing contexts. This also helps when you are thinking about negative events and ruminating anxiety-ridden thoughts. The psychological distance allows a person to reflect on themselves in a less emotional way, similar to how they would reflect on some other person. The self is often emotionally charged in moments of anxiety, so the distance helps in reducing the impact of those emotions. Psychological distance lowers the perceived intensity of emotions and makes them easier to manage."
In the movie The Never Ending Story, Morlah the ancient Tortoise on Shell Mountain states:
"W e d o n 't c a r e".
"We don't even care that we don't care".