My daughter is my father’s health/medical POA. She has moved him several times in an attempt to keep me from him because she and I have a contentious relationship. He was involuntarily committed to a mental institution under the pretense he was harmful to himself cause he refused to take insulin at the assisted living he was in..which is untrue because the staff at the facility was giving him his insulin instead of licensed nurses and the facility denied ever giving him his insulin. The day after he was involuntarily committed the proceeds from the sale of his house was received and the following day POA filed for guardianship (how coincidental). Upon release from the mental institution He was then taken to the hospital for observation and is now in his 2nd assisted living facility . Keep in mind the first facility evicted him due to him being in a mental institution for 2 weeks.
My dad through this was able to make contact with me via phone and I have been able to see him. Each time POA found out, she placed restrictions on his visits and calls. Now at the 2Nd facility, POS has restricted him from all visitors and all calls incoming or outgoing.. she won’t allow him a phone in his room....but she’s bought him a new HDTV which he already had 2 flatscreens when he had his own home.
She’s isolating him and he has previously expressed his distrust in her , she doesn’t discuss his finances with him and no longer wants her as his POA. There are other legal matters that POA has stirred up that have the courts involved and my dad can’t have her revoked until after those proceedings are taken care of .
Summary: My dad’s home is sold , POA has all access; POA moved him several times; POA has filed for guardianship; POA places restrictions on my dad’s visits/calls; POA is my older child and we do not get along at all; my dad is not happy and POA has always wanted to have control over her grandaddy and his assets; his best interests are not in POA’s best interests; POA doesn’t like to be challenged; POA has issues with authority; POA uses control to get what she wants; Im POA’s mother and I too have been subjected to her ravings and manipulations as well as her younger sibling;
My dad can express himself , he can tell you what’s on his mind , he can walk with a rollator, he can feed himself , he knows people, he had an active social life ; he has health issues ;my dad owns another house and 2 vehicles; yes i agree he needs assistance but POA is trying to prove he’s incompetent;
POA knows how he feels about her but because she is POA he is subject to her and her shenanigans;
I am listed first on his living will and POA is listed as an alternate. Does the living will give me any type of authority to see my dad and make sure he’s ok?
POA is abusing her authority . Her goal is to weaken him mentally to prove to guardianship court he’s incompetent and that she would be the fit guardian. If that were to happen, I would never see my dad nor anyone else.
What can I do??
There's just nothing sinister about this. It's what has to be done.
Your father gave power of attorney to your daughter. I don't know why he didn't pick you, but he didn't pick you.
Regarding the living will, take it to the guardianship hearing and ask for directions from the judge.
Why am I not being more warmly sympathetic to you?
Acting on behalf of someone who has lost his marbles and is making accusations is hard, miserable work. Doing it with someone sniping at you from the sidelines is doubly so. I have to say, so far at least, my sympathies are with your daughter.
Why have you opened two questions, because how are we going to help you with two threads going on the same topic?
Maybe someone can advise you.
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