Dear Aging Care Forum,
Today, I have a new caregiver who is very good. Though my mother is now being resistant, argumentative, no understanding. This is like a flipped day. Totally unreasonable, not being nice.
Is it just because a new day person is with her today and we're all relearning or she is trying out her independence on the new person? It's all a bit stressful for me. If she doesn't take to this new person, it will be the end of the line for me and will need to look at putting her in a home.
I feel like I'm looking at the beginning of the end.
Other things that have happened. Suddenly, her sleep cycle is off. She is talking in her sleep, mumbling, groaning, and not sleeping well. This causes her to want to sleep in the daytime and then she doesn't sleep at night. This current event will make it very hard for my hubby and I to care for her as we have been doing for the last 1.5 years.
Everyday is a new thing. What a game changer.
LastOne
Thanks for your note. I just find this a distressing day. My mom was relentless for hours, practically kicking and screaming. This wasn't like her norm at all. It used to be a brief bit, but the carrying on really worried me for things to come. It's a constant roulette wheel, never know where it's going to stop or land on next! I wish I could change that wheel with only happy, positive and great things!
Guess I've always been an idealist and wanted the best situation to happen for all.
LastOne
Thank you for your helpful note. I think you are correct about the change in caregiver. This is a really awesome caregiver! The best we have had! She is 30 years in the business, has a mom with dementia, is kind, careful, thoughtful, smart, and meets the person where they are at. She has savvy in this area that I will never have.
We try to keep mom occupied during the day so that she gets back on a normal sleep cycle!
I wish you the best with your mom too!
LastOne
Thank you for your kind words and sharing your experience too. And also, thank you for caring about me also. No UTI, but I think she could be trying the new gal's patience and tolerance. This afternoon she is much better and has a smile on her face. So does the caregiver! I'm thankful for that! I'm going to hate to see her leave at the end of the day today.
Best you and to your mom too!
Hugs,
LastOne