My husband has Dementia and he pulled a pair of nice shoes out of the closet and now wants to wear them almost all the time. They are really nice, he always took pride in having shiny shoes. He says they have a thin sole not like work boots that he has snagged his foot and fallen. If he has asked me 1 time he has asked me 50 if they look "tacky". He's very prideful in his appearance. I have told him 50 times they are very nice. Anyone ?
My BIL who I care for since his wife died had kept a couple of her dresses. Now my BIL is a rough tough Northern England male, a firm believer in the idea of the best place for a woman is kitchen & bed. I should have said he was like this, because for the last week he's insisted on wearing one of my late sisters dresses. A pretty little tea dress in dove grey with pale pink rosebuds, fluttery cap sleeves and a handkerchief hem. He has silver hair tied back in a ponytail and a greying beard, he wears this dress with thick woolen socks and steel toe capped boots! Over and over he'll try look over shoulder while asking me "does my bum look big in this?" Bless him, he's barely got a bun he's so thin now.
So I just keep saying, no you look really good. It's hard to see him like this, hard to see my sister's favourite dress this way - but I wear my late husbands sweatshirt so whom am I to speak.
I guess what I'm really saying is unless he or someone else is in danger go with the flow. Try to validate him "tarty? No not a bit, just as smart and goodlooking as the day I fell in love with you" or something similar, then try a distraction, if possible an activity far removed from feet and shoes. Good luck :~)
Whatever floats your boat I say