Mum's had Alzheimers since 2011. She's done very well and had quality of life for the most part. She lives with her husband and the last 6 months the pressure has increased. I have mum with me for on my two days off a week and my husband and I often have mum and husband for dinner at weekend. So my life revolves around my job and looking after mum. We've all coped well but lately mum's has deteriorated. She's desperately trying (too hard) to appear normal. But although she looks lovely, hair and makeup she is totally mixed up about everything and remembers nothing. Our conversations consist of me trying to make everything normal to make her feel secure. She can no longer do anything alone or even be at home alone, as shd would leave vooker on or be a danger to herself I'm exhausted. I'm sure her husband won't be able to cope much longer then she will come and live with me and my husband and I'll give up my job. Any body got any idea what stage she is at?
I would just read a lot about what to expect and also read what other caregivers have experienced. I'd do that before giving up a job. It's a pretty ambitious task that requires a lot of help if you are providing care in the home. And so cost is a consideration. I might take her for a week just so you can see what's actually involved. Some dementia patients talk and repeat nonstop. It can be draining. There are also things like sleep disorders that prevent you from sleeping at night. I'd talk to your dad candidly about what he is experiencing. Normally, the person puts on a good front, but, what happens at home is quite different.