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For one thing, Asian has nothing to do with it if you don’t want it to.
My parents are Koreans from the Korean War. The last time my mom was overly Korean was in 1981 when she introduced this lady to marry my uncle, the up and coming doc, because she thought that the lady, speaking Korean, would just take over care for her mother. My mom vetted me to check her out, and I came back and said this lady is lying to you. She won’t do it even if she says. She is a hypocrite and lying, so I’m done talking to her.
It lasted less than a year with her and her mil. In the aftermath, no one expects anyone anymore to be the 247 anymore.
I just got back from 4 days with an elderly aunt, and now I'm somewhat refreshed and ready to dive back into taking care of my husband. Sometimes just a short break is all a person needs. And then at other times, you realize that you simply can not do this any longer. Find a Care Advisor to see what might be available in your area. No one says you HAVE to do the caretaking if you CAN'T. But know that you have options if you can afford them.
Where is Mom while you took respite? If in a NH or AL maybe you can make arrangements to keep her there. All depends on how much money she has, a nursing home you can apply for Medicaid. Hospice can be done at both places. This is the time to make the decision. Mom has Dementia so you can't expect her to realize what caring for her is doing to you. If she has done OK where she is don't bring her home.
I scanned your other posts and saw Moms oxygen was 92. 95 is normal so that is not too bad.
Ok to feel crappy. Again, it's some sort of general public mis-conception that care givers are super, duper, always, always optimistic, up beat, positive, unpaid (gratefully), experts in care giving, doing the work others run from-unless working in a medical setting. Even those pros who post here, certainly have the right to complain too about care giving for loved ones. So you know what you are heading back to. It is impossibly difficult and not something to really look forward to, after having a taste of life in the outside world. I hope you are able to get more time away, don't know your circumstances.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
For one thing, Asian has nothing to do with it if you don’t want it to.
My parents are Koreans from the Korean War. The last time my mom was overly Korean was in 1981 when she introduced this lady to marry my uncle, the up and coming doc, because she thought that the lady, speaking Korean, would just take over care for her mother. My mom vetted me to check her out, and I came back and said this lady is lying to you. She won’t do it even if she says. She is a hypocrite and lying, so I’m done talking to her.
It lasted less than a year with her and her mil. In the aftermath, no one expects anyone anymore to be the 247 anymore.
Where is Mom while you took respite? If in a NH or AL maybe you can make arrangements to keep her there. All depends on how much money she has, a nursing home you can apply for Medicaid. Hospice can be done at both places. This is the time to make the decision. Mom has Dementia so you can't expect her to realize what caring for her is doing to you. If she has done OK where she is don't bring her home.
I scanned your other posts and saw Moms oxygen was 92. 95 is normal so that is not too bad.
Again, it's some sort of general public mis-conception that care givers are super, duper, always, always optimistic, up beat, positive, unpaid (gratefully), experts in care giving, doing the work others run from-unless working in a medical setting. Even those pros who post here, certainly have the right to complain too about care giving for loved ones.
So you know what you are heading back to. It is impossibly difficult and not something to really look forward to, after having a taste of life in the outside world. I hope you are able to get more time away, don't know your circumstances.