We have guardianship over our mom because she has dementia and our dad couldn't take care of her needs, but she has gained strength and can physically care for herself but not mentally. Our dads in physically incapable now, he keep falling and fractured him and shoulder, he's also been given a psychological evaluation and Dr's said he's not capable of decisions. My dad refuses rehab but he's in a rehab facility in Florida. Our mom can't be alone we fly down, taking turns from Northern Indiana/ Northern Michigan. Our parent's don't have much money for private pay assisted living, we need help to find medicaid assisted living and how does that work?
So off to the Elder Law Attorney. I was POA and Trustee for my brother by long distance. I would NEVER attempt that again. The first year was a nightmare of anxiety. Did I learn a lot? Yup. Would I ever do it again? Nope. And guardianship is WORSE because your legal responsibility is very difficult and you cannot be excused or allowed to quit except by the court and the court will never allow that.
I sure wish you luck but you will need legal help. That will spend down the last of their money nicely and hopefully you will find a good Medicaid facility that will take both of them together.
I wish you good luck. This will be hard. Get on your flying shoes because you need an attorney in their own state.
Do you have POA for dad?
Do they have a home to sell?
Realize that after placement they will still need ongoing oversight.
This is a big job. Wishing you luck in getting them placed.